Would You Consider A Relationship With A Man That Has Herpes?
I have been seeing this guy for two months, and he just recently told me that he has genital herpes, which he contracted from his cheating wife…..would you still be with him…and are their ways I can’t get it if it comes to intimacy?
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Absolutely. To let something as mild as herpes end a relationship is really stupid. i have it and have never had an outbreak, my dr said on valtrex my chances of spreading it are <1%. People i know who got an initial outbreak never did after taking meds. So at the worst you have to take a pill everyday. BIFG DEAL. There are much much much worse things. the fact that he is smart enough to have been tested -(80% of those with herpes do not have symptoms so they unknowingly spread it), and the fact that he was honest despite how terrified he must have been says alot about his integrity. he sounds like a keeper. don’t let ignorant people tell you to leave him. a little research has shown me that on YA those people who say “ewww leave him now” are almost always young teens with no life experience or a brain. An educated mature adult would say STAY WITH HIM. good luck.
There is always a small risk of getting herpes even when there is no out break. Many people would tell you to dump him because herpes has a huge unfair stigma attached to it.
If I didn’t all ready have herpes, I would give it a chance. If he had his out breaks under control and wahonestst enough to tell me when he felt oncomingng on then I would give it a try.
There are ways to protect your self from getting herpes. As long as you never have sex while he has an out break your chances of getting herpes are reduced. Also if he is on some kind of suppressive therapy (ie Valtrex) then your chances of getting herpes from him are even further reduced.
Let me just say I have been with my husband for 7 yrs. I am hsv2 positive, and he is still hsv negative. We are careful, use protection, and I am on suppressive therapy. Keep in mind also we had 6 yrs of unprotected sex because I had no idea I had the virus. So I was grateful that he is still negative. I still would recommend protection, and suppresive therapy for him. Those combined lowers your chance of getting it to around 4%, as long as you refrain from sex during an outbreak.
Don’t dump him over this. So far you are being very fair and logical, kudos to you for that. If he is the one, keep him ok
my boyfriend and i have been dating for a yr n half i got checked and found out i have herpes…i mean its not big blisters and allll out of control for me like some pictures you might see on the internet you cant tell at all..sometimes i have itching …but not bad and i put ointment..its not bad really..i have to deal with it..and it isnt like i thought so i didnt think i had herpes..my boyfriend doesnt have it it didnt get it..thankfully…but he still loves me and said he was planning his life with me anyway…he looks at me the same and when people say rude things about herpes..he laughs..cause its stupid..how the stigma is..really it doesnt change him..dont be shallow…it would be different if he cheated on you and caught it..hes being honest with you..take him how he is..it doesnt make him different you can use condoms and he can get on medication if he isnt already..be supportive…the worst part of having the virus is knowing you have it..its all in your head..so it can be hard on him! you choose..but take it from someone who has it..we are just like you..and you might get it sleeping with different guys ..at least hes honest and you can be safe about it..its 1 in 5 i believe..so all you have to do is sleep with 5 men and one of them can have it..its that common sweety!
yea u should just use protection and test urself to know if u get it in the future or not its really not that horrible as some ppl make it seem and besides if u love him and he loves u then just do it all u have to do is be careful jus like the rest of the world when it comes to sex
Herpes is serious and you never be free of it once you get it… you just will control it… so.. i would think a lot before it…